Dear Placenta –
I hope this letter finds you well, and I hope we are able to meet soon!
I have heard some of the most incredible stories about you! I had no idea you were so busy and versatile! Are you on Linkedin? You should update your profile – I would totally endorse you!
The reason I’m writing is some of these stories have me thinking differently about you, and I feel compelled to apologize.
First off, thank you for all you do. You really are amazing. I’m so sorry I didn’t innately treasure your role.
I had very little knowledge before now. I knew when I got pregnant that I was a growing baby, but I didn’t connect the dots that there was also a fully functioning new organ in me too!
Placenta, it’s like you are the perfect house guest – you feed, clean, keep things in check. You send oxygen and filter waste. You help regulate MY hormones. You help the growth and development of my baby. You give and give and give.
I think about my baby’s birth a lot. I think about the feelings. I think about positions. I think about being scared and the pain everyone insists on talking about. But right now, I’m thinking about you.
I read about what happens with and to you at birth. I don’t know what I will do or if I will be able to, but I can see how taking a pause after my baby is born would be a way to be both connected and hold my child in a way that I never have.
Does it seem weird to want to keep that connection a little longer? You probably don’t think so.
I’ve been reading that soon after my baby is born, you will be leaving my body. That you will be born as well, and that most people think your job is finished.
But that can’t be goodbye. Do you really just get thrown away? Am I really going to throw away a piece of my body?
I want to let you know that I’ve been thinking of how you are still an incredibly valuable part of my life, and the life of my child.
I’ve been thinking that, if all goes well and if you are able, that I’d like you take on a new role. I’d really like you to help me when I go home. Can you do that for me?
It’s not a topic that gets talked about in my group of friends often, but there are some mom’s that say you were able to make life back at home a little less hectic and stressful. There are some moms that say you help with depression, and breastfeeding, and bonding.
Do you do that? Can we try?
When I see all the different ways that people talk about using their placentas, I’m not open to them all. Please don’t think me a horrible person. I want you to be safe, I want me to be safe, and I want my baby to be safe.
You have given so much to me and my baby, but I know you are capable of more.
So thank you placenta. I appreciate all you have done and all that you have the potential to do in the future.
You will no longer just be a part of pregnancy. You have a part to play in my life as a mother, whose baby will live outside her body. We will both continue to benefit from you.
Thank you for understanding the time it has taken me to realize you are incredible.
Be well, and I look forward to your arrival.
All my love,